Explore the healing journey of mother-daughter relationships, where layers of caregiving and validation are unpacked. Discover how seeing your mom as 'just a girl' shifts dynamics and encourages unlearning criticism. The discussion dives into choosing partners wisely, critiquing societal expectations around beauty, and the impact of emotional labor. Light-hearted anecdotes balance the serious reflections on family dynamics, financial literacy, and the ways personal growth can drive collective healing.
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Eye Gazing Reawakens Mother-Daughter Bond
Erica describes eye-gazing with her mother and realizes she rarely stared at her mother's eyes beyond infancy.
The exercise revealed long-held emotions and the need for deeper mother-daughter work.
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Set Boundaries When Caring For Parents
Use protective practices and boundaries when caring for emotionally needy parents to preserve your energy.
Recognize the persistent emotional umbilical cord and set limits so you can actually be helpful long-term.
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Adult Triggers Lead To Childhood Roots
Close adult relationships trigger childhood wounds and provide opportunities to trace them to their roots.
Erica emphasizes following the emotional string back to childhood to actually heal recurring patterns.
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What does it look like to heal your relationship with your mom while raising a daughter of your own?
In this episode, Good Moms reflect on healing alongside their mothers, the challenges of letting go of old patterns, and the unexpected lessons that surface when you start to see your mom as “just a girl” too. They talk about caretaking, validation, breaking cycles of criticism, and the emotional labor of holding space for the women who once held it for you.
Timestamps
(07:45) The power of staring into your mothers eyes
(19:20) Seeing your mom as “just a girl” and shifting the dynamic
(28:10) Mommy-pleasing, validation, and unlearning criticism
(40:30) How childhood patterns reappear in adult relationships
How harmful it is to assume women’s value in relationships is tied to beauty or “submission.
The flawed idea that dating a so-called “5 or 6” guarantees loyalty or effort.
How men with this mentality often avoid women with opinions or standards because it forces accountability.
Why choosing a partner should be like choosing teammates for a strong family — you’d want someone smart, capable, and supportive, not someone you can just control.
(01:18:00) Submission, gender wars, and questions about partnership
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