PsycHacks Episode 516: Her narcissistic ex (why this is a red flag)
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May 5, 2025 The discussion dives into why many women perceive their ex-partners as narcissists, revealing the surprising realities behind these misconceptions. It explores the intricate link between narcissistic and borderline personality traits, shedding light on emotional challenges in such relationships. Listeners learn to identify red flags of narcissism, emphasizing the importance of recognizing unhealthy dynamics to foster better connections. Personal responsibility in relationships takes center stage, inviting reflection on past experiences.
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Misuse of Narcissism Label
- Narcissism is often overused to describe exploitative men though only about 1-2% have NPD.
- Women who felt they gave more in relationships tend to label their exes as narcissists retrospectively.
Blaming Exes Avoids Self-Responsibility
- Calling exes narcissists may show a woman avoids responsibility for relationship failures.
- This mindset often indicates externalizing blame and lack of insight into personal role.
Borderline and Narcissistic Link
- Narcissistic and borderline personality disorders often co-create each other in family dynamics.
- Borderline women often have narcissistic fathers; narcissistic men often have borderline mothers.
