This episode speaks directly to one of the most exhausting parts of being in a relationship: realizing you can’t control your partner and wondering what that means for you.

For a lot of people, that realization feels defeating. Like your hands are tied. Like you’re stuck waiting or reacting or hoping things improve.

This week I talk about why not being able to control your partner does not mean you are powerless. In fact, your real influence in a relationship has very little to do with managing or controlling other people and how you manage yourself, which is the real flex. I also mention:

• the regret of managing others instead of living authentically
• what you can control versus what you can only influence
• common control tactics that backfire in relationships
• regulation over reactivity to build safety and trust
• the three-step power move: pause, name, choose
• my real-life gym moment from this morning
• aligning responses with values and intentions

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You Can’t Control Your Partner, But You’re Not Powerless