035: It's a Good Time to be a Man with Ryan Michler
Apr 8, 2024
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Ryan Michler, masculinity expert and founder of 'Order of Man', talks about cherishing parenting moments, staying active to avoid negative habits, channeling a combative spirit, and the importance of consistency. He also discusses negotiation with a 10-year-old, creating 'Order of Man' and 'The Iron Council', and the challenges of modern masculinity.
Encouraging negotiation and independence early on with kids instills valuable decision-making skills and fosters independence.
Finding personal resonance in training methods ensures consistent engagement over time, emphasizing variety and enjoyment in workouts.
Balancing intensity with playfulness in daily activities promotes holistic engagement, highlighting the joy and fulfillment of experimenting and having fun in tasks.
Deep dives
Negotiation and Independence in Parenting
Negotiating with his son about getting a PlayStation 5, the host explores the importance of negotiation and independence in parenting. He shares how important activities for him may differ from his son's preferences, highlighting the value of teaching his son that desired rewards come with specific sacrifices. By setting boundaries and encouraging negotiations, the host fosters his son's decision-making skills and independence, ensuring that life skills of give-and-take are instilled early on.
Importance of Variety in Training
Discussing the significance of training routines, the conversation emphasizes the need for variety in workouts to maintain engagement over time. Highlighting the personal preference in training methods, the host shares his experience of finding enjoyment and effectiveness in diverse training approaches, from strength training to jujitsu. The discussion reflects that the key to consistent engagement lies in finding activities that personally resonate, rather than conforming to standardized training practices.
Exploring the Element of Play in Life
Exploring the concept of playfulness in daily activities, the podcast delves into the joy of experimenting and having fun in tasks. Emphasizing the value of taking a lighter approach to endeavors, the host shares his insight on balancing intense pursuits with moments of enjoyment and exploration. By advocating for a mindset of play and experimentation alongside disciplined efforts, the podcast promotes holistic engagement and fulfillment in various aspects of life.
Teaching Life Skills Through Negotiation
Through his son's negotiation for a PlayStation 5 access, the host exemplifies teaching life skills through give-and-take scenarios. Emphasizing the importance of sacrifices for desired outcomes, the negotiation process between parent and child reflects real-life decision-making processes. By encouraging his son to understand the correlation between effort and reward, the host instills a valuable lesson in managing responsibilities and enjoying privileges through negotiation and balanced agreements.
Teaching Kids about Earning and Responsibility
One key insight from the podcast episode highlights the importance of teaching kids about earning and responsibility. The speaker shared a personal experience where he allowed his son to take over yard work responsibilities, but realized the need for the child to prove capability before fully committing. By emphasizing the need for children to demonstrate commitment and effort before receiving rewards, the speaker highlighted the valuable lesson of not jumping into agreements without proper evaluation, especially crucial in negotiations with children as they need to understand the consequences of their actions.
Empowering Men through Community and Purpose
Another significant point discussed in the podcast was about the importance of empowering men through community and purpose. The episode delved into the concept that the current time presents great opportunities for men to stand out and excel due to the low standards within society. Encouraging men to find purpose, significance, and connection through brotherhood and accountability, the speaker highlighted that while challenges exist, men have the resources and support to create meaningful lives. The discussion emphasized the need to shift away from victim mindsets and embrace the abundant opportunities available to men in the modern age.
Jason and Gabe sit down with Ryan Michler for today’s episode of the Jason Khalipa Podcast: - "Man in the Making" podcast - Don't take time with your kids for granted - Drunk, passed out, or hungover - Women want to be heard - It's easy to drift off course - Channeling a combative spirit - Staying consistent in training - The art of negotiation with a 10-year-old - Creating "Order of Man" and "The Iron Council" - Is it hard to be a man today? Never let momentum get to zero. Listen to the Jason Khalipa Podcast today and every Thursday on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. Follow Jason