Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)
Jan 22, 2024
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Dr. Gerry Crete, a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor, discusses how parts work can help in outgrowing porn. They explore working preemptively with parts, breaking free from a trance state, and fulfilling attachment needs through Jesus. The podcast also covers integrating Christian faith with psychological approaches and how healing from porn addiction leads to discovering one's true identity.
Befriending and understanding our inner parts, rather than pushing them away, can help in managing difficult emotions and meeting intimacy needs without resorting to harmful behaviors like pornography use.
Through prayer, meditation, and engaging with Christ's love, individuals can experience healing and wholeness by tapping into the transformative power of Christ's love and acceptance.
Deep dives
Understanding the Concept of Parts Work
Parts work involves recognizing that our inner world is complex and diverse, consisting of different parts, or sub-personalities. These parts serve various roles, such as managers, protectors, and exiled wounded parts. While some parts may seem problematic, they often have good intentions, like numbing pain or meeting intimacy needs. Rather than pushing away these parts that may lead to harmful behaviors like pornography use, a more effective approach is to befriend them, acknowledge their positive intentions, and find alternative ways to manage difficult emotions and fulfill intimacy needs.
The Transformational Power of Befriending Parts
Befriending our parts involves approaching them with curiosity, understanding, and compassion. This approach, rooted in the internal family systems model, allows us to build a cooperative and healing relationship with our inner world. Instead of viewing certain parts as enemies or judging them, we can create space for them to be seen, acknowledged, and understood. By fostering a non-judgmental and Christ-like attitude towards our parts, we can work towards healing and integration, allowing all parts to work together harmoniously.
Using Prayer and Meditation to Connect with Christ
Prayer and meditation can be powerful tools in the process of connecting with Christ and addressing our parts. Litany's of the Heart, a book by Dr. Jerry Crete, provides prayers that facilitate this connection. These prayers are designed to help individuals experience Christ's love and acceptance, even in their woundedness. By engaging in meditative practices and imagining scenes from the Gospels, individuals can tap into the transformative power of Christ's love and experience healing and wholeness.
Transforming False Beliefs and Embracing God's Love
Parts work also involves examining our beliefs about ourselves and God, particularly our God concept and God image. Deep-seated beliefs that we need to earn God's love can hinder our healing and growth. By uncovering and challenging these false beliefs, we can open ourselves to accepting and internalizing God's unconditional love and grace. Through experiential exercises and meditations based on sound theology, individuals can encounter the heart-transforming truth of being God's beloved and finding rest in His delight.
How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerful approach to outgrowing porn. Learn why we need to work with parts pre-emptively, how to "break the spell" when you're in a trance state, and practical ways Jesus can meet our attachment needs.
Dr. Gerry Crete is a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of trauma, addictions, and anxiety disorders. He is a former president of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association, founder of Transfiguration Counseling, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Dr. Gerry has long been passionate about integrating principles of the Christian faith with effective mental health treatment.