Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer Losing Everything (w/ Tig Notaro)
Nov 14, 2025
Comedian Tig Notaro, known for her candid humor and storytelling, joins to share her incredible journey through multiple life crises, including battling cancer and the loss of her mother. She reveals how these experiences shifted her perspective and led to her sweet relationship with wife Stephanie, sparked by a whimsical 'sweet dreams' text. Tig discusses the importance of humor in grief, her adventures in parenting twins, and the role of therapy in finding contentment. Plus, insights into her new documentary, Come See Me in the Good Light.
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Movie-Set Meet Cute
- Tig describes meeting Stephanie on a movie set, exchanging texts, and sharing a captured first kiss on Valentine's Day.
- Their relationship began with playful texts like “sweet dreams” and a funny “OK, Dyke” reply that sealed the connection.
Commitment Can Expand Freedom
- Tig says committing gave her freedom rather than taking it away because structure enabled exploration.
- Devoting herself to Stephanie unlocked experiences she hadn’t had in past relationships.
Year Of Loss And Starting Fertility Alone
- Tig recounts 2012 as a collapse of health and personal loss: pneumonia, C. diff, cancer diagnosis, breakup, and her mother's death.
- She began fertility attempts alone before Stephanie joined and then insisted on being part of the process.
