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Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Detecting Shame in Your Kid

Nov 5, 2024
Shame can significantly impact a child's emotional development. In this discussion, parents learn to identify and tackle shame in their kids. The difference between shame and guilt is clarified, emphasizing healthier coping mechanisms. Additionally, academic struggles are highlighted, illustrating how parental support can help children manage feelings of unworthiness. Strategies for de-shaming dynamics within the home are shared, empowering parents to promote resilience and confidence in their children.
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  • Recognizing shame as a core emotional response enables parents to respond effectively and help children develop resilience.
  • Distinguishing between shame and guilt is vital in guiding children to separate their self-worth from their actions and mistakes.

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Understanding Shame in Children

Shame can significantly impact children's emotional responses and behavior. It often sits close to vulnerability, causing deeply feeling kids to react explosively to seemingly minor incidents, reflecting deeper self-worth issues. For example, a child may have an intense meltdown over a small accident, demonstrating that the emotional turmoil is tied to feelings of inadequacy rather than the event itself. Recognizing these emotional responses as symptoms of shame rather than mere tantrums can help parents respond more effectively to their kids’ needs.

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