Self-Helpless How Quickly Does Their Problem Become Yours? Ditch Auto-Accommodating and Stay in Your Lane with Terri Cole
Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting these over-functioning behaviors to let go of what’s not your responsibility—freeing up your time and energy while empowering those around you.
Discussed in this episode:
- Busting The Biggest Codependency Myth
- Hyper-Independence and Anticipatory Planning
- Auto Advice-Giving and The Auto-Yes
- Taking Your Resentment Inventory
- Let Them Be The Hero of Their Story
- Escaping the Cult of Nice
- 5 Scripts for Setting New Boundaries
- How To Identify a Transference
- Primary vs. Secondary Gain
- 8 Questions to Ask Before You Fix or Rescue
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