Savage Lovecast Episode 956

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Feb 25, 2025

A woman grapples with her father's surprising relationship with a much younger partner, sparking family tension. Meanwhile, a British polyamorous man navigates the challenges of a loud partner at sex parties, reflecting on the balance of desires and public perception. A gay couple faces differing views on monogamy, leading to sneaky hookups and growing conflict. The conversation touches on age-gap dynamics and the importance of communication in open relationships, all while weaving in humor and relatable insights.

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ANECDOTE

Trump/Musk Video

A viral video showed Trump worshipping Musk's feet, raising questions about kink.
Dan Savage defends foot fetishists, separating the act from the political figures.

ADVICE

Age Gap Relationship

If worried about your father's much-younger girlfriend, engage, don't avoid.
Protect him financially, observe her, and try to talk sense into him.

ADVICE

Loud Sex at Sex Parties

Embrace your partner's loud sex; don't suppress her.
Desensitize yourself like you did in hotels, or skip the sex club.

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A woman's 74 year-old father has started dating a 19 year-old woman, and no one in her family besides her is batting an eye. She is horrified and refuses to meet the lass or speak to her father until the relationship ends. Is she being too harsh?

A British poly man has an American girlfriend who comes to visit now and again. She asked him to take her to a sex party, but there's a hitch. She screams to kingdom come during sex. The caller is worried that his more reserved British sex party compatriots will find her conduct unseemly.

On the Magnum, Dan simply couldn't resist bringing on Sunshyne for a "What Are You Doing?" Sunshyne is a shaggy haired, muppet-faced adonis! He models for multi-national corporations AND has a fin-dom hustle on the side. He and Dan talk about his work, how he got there, and whether women or men give better head.

A gay man and his boyfriend do not agree about sex. His boyfriend wants monogamy and routine, unadventurous sex. The caller yearns for more sex, and more variety. His boyfriend reluctantly agreed to let him see other people, but only if he uses a condom and tells him every time. But when he does tell, his boyfriend freaks out. So the caller has been sneaking around, seeing sex workers, without using condoms. How can they reconcile?

Spoiler! They probably can't.

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From sex parties, to pegging, gay rights to monogamy and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.