Better Sex 320: [Soapbox] Is there hope for my sex life?
In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman tackles one of the most common and vulnerable questions: “Is there hope for my sex life?” Jessa explores the roots of hopelessness in intimate relationships, explains how communication and teamwork can reignite connection, and shares practical strategies for couples to rediscover joy and fulfillment in their sex lives. Whether you’re struggling with mismatched desire, stress, or just feeling stuck, this episode offers hope, insight, and actionable advice.
[0:46] Common concerns: Feeling hopeless about sex and relationship struggles.
[1:18] The foundation of hope: Love, friendship, and goodwill in relationships.
[1:43] Communication and teamwork as keys to improvement.
[2:17] Avoiding polarization: Working together against the problem.
[2:41] Redefining sex: Moving beyond rigid expectations and goal orientation.
[3:29] The stress of goal-oriented sex and how to shift perspective.
[4:24] Two types of sexual desire: Proactive vs. reactive.
[4:42] Understanding and embracing reactive desire.
[5:40] Building hope: Challenging assumptions and valuing both partners’ experiences.
[6:17] Introducing the “How Big a Problem Is My Sex Life?” quiz.
[6:45] Using the quiz to assess your relationship and find hope.
[7:08] Encouragement and support for finding hope in your sex life.
[7:21] Outro: Where to find more resources and episodes.
[7:36] Thank you message and invitation for feedback and reviews.
[7:56] Closing credits and theme music.
Take the quiz: https://www.sexlifequiz.com
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More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass