Dive into marriage hacks that really work! Discover why love languages matter and how parallel lives can threaten your connection. Learn about the 'magic five'—spending five hours a week together for closeness. Vern emphasizes the importance of quarterly getaways and shares tactics like soft startups to ease conversations. Don't miss the repair attempts to calm heated discussions and the wisdom of accepting perpetual problems. It's all about nurturing your relationship with practical advice!
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Parallel Lives Are The Real Threat
The biggest threat to a marriage is not porn or affairs but something subtler and systemic.
Vern Tompke identifies parallel lives as the core danger that erodes long-term connection.
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Discover Your Partner's Love Language
Learn how your spouse prefers to receive love and intentionally show love that way.
Vern Tompke stresses becoming a student of your partner, not assuming they want love like you do.
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Schedule The 'Magic Five' Hours Weekly
Prioritize weekly focused time: aim for at least five hours together to maintain closeness.
The 'magic five' is the empirically found tipping point where partners feel connected.
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We had so much fun last time I thought we would do it again. Actually I realized there was a number of marriage tips and hacks that didn't make the last episode so I thought we would do a part 2! Heres to having a great marriage relationship!
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