Lewis Howes, an entrepreneur and author of the School of Greatness podcast, joins Jay for an insightful discussion about the nature of relationships. They explore why people stay in non-working relationships, emphasizing authentic communication and growth. Lewis challenges romantic myths perpetuated by media, offering a modern perspective on love and commitment. The duo dives into evolving desires, the significance of emotional connection, and the necessity of regular relationship check-ins to foster deeper understanding and intimacy.
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Real Love vs. Movies
Real love isn't like in movies, it's about renewing commitment through growth.
It's scary to question lifelong exclusivity, but open conversations help us understand.
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Love's Evolution
Societal narratives, movies, and music shape our early understanding of love as a fantasy.
Initial desire fades, and love evolves into deeper connections.
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Define Love
Define what love means to you, as it varies from attraction to deep connection.
If love is just desire, you may seek new partners frequently.
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Why do some people stay in a relationship? People stay because they are in love obviously – but sometimes people stay because it’s convenient and they don’t want to waste the time they’ve already spent with that person. But is this really what makes you stay?
In this episode of On Purpose, we get to listen to Jay’s conversation with Lewis Howes where they talk about whether someone can stay in a relationship with someone for a very long time.
Listen NOW to Episode #1 of "Awkward Therapy" with Lewis Howes & Jay Shetty on The School of Greatness https://open.spotify.com/episode/50Y6khgBST9J48o3KqtY0k
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:46 Real love is different from the movies
05:13 Desire in relationships
06:50 The chase and pursuit
09:56 Why you don’t need to love one person for the rest of your life
11:14 The reason why people stay in a non-working relationship
11:56 Starting a relationship in therapy
13:16 Seeing life in seasons
14:05 Polyamorous relationships will not give you peace
18:37 Have a conversation about the relationship that you want
22:20 Relationships should be high engagement - low attachment
24:58 A long term relationship does not mean it’s a successful one
28:20 Life story vs. love story
30:18 Commitment
31:26 Stop bringing baggage into the relationship
33:21 What you can learn in a committed relationship
37:52 Removing sexual chemistry in the start of a relationship
42:12 Wanting to be in a relationship because you feel lonely
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