The Drama Triangle identifies our roles in dysfunctional interpersonal dynamics. It can be a potent tool for understanding conflict and miscommunication within personal and professional relationships. In this episode, we break down the core components of the Drama Triangle, strategies to disentangle ourselves from ‘drama’, and explore practical tools to identify and navigate the dynamics of our own interactions.

Conceived by Stephen Karpman, the Drama Triangle highlights a particular type of destructive interaction that can occur between individuals in a conflict.

The model delineates three distinct roles: the Victim, who experiences a sense of oppression, incapacity, and externalizes responsibility for their predicament; the Hero, who embodies an overly helpful persona and frequently fosters dependency, thus indirectly sustaining the Victim’s sense of helplessness; and the Villain, characterized by blaming, controlling, and authoritative behavior, fostering a power dynamic that aggravates the Victim’s sense of oppression.

These roles are not fixed, and participants in the drama often rotate through them, perpetuating a cycle of destructive, non-productive interactions. Understanding this model provides insight into dysfunctional communication patterns, offering a starting point for transformation and healthier relationship dynamics

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We discuss:

What is the Drama Triangle?
The Empowerment Dynamic
Recalibrating from drama to neutrality