442 - Repeat These 2 Words to Reinvent Yourself with Jonathan Van Ness

May 27, 2025

Jonathan Van Ness, a New York Times bestselling author and star of Queer Eye, shares transformative insights in this enlightening discussion. JVN introduces a powerful two-word mantra that helped them shift from negative self-talk to embracing their true self. They dive into overcoming societal expectations, navigating the challenges of internet fame, and the emotional complexities of public life. With authenticity, JVN reflects on their creative journey, the evolution of their career, and the power of resilience in personal growth.

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ADVICE

The Power of "Crop Failure"

Use the phrase "crop failure" to stop negative self-talk.
This redirects your mind away from harsh criticism to a lighter, more playful perspective.

ANECDOTE

Overcoming Fear of the Back Dive

Jonathan Van Ness overcame fear to learn a back dive with his stepdad's help.
This breakthrough led him to pursue cheerleading as a path to social connection.

INSIGHT

Courage to Be Disliked

Finding the courage to be disliked is crucial for public figures.
The bigger your platform grows, the more you must embrace this to stay authentic.

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What if two simple words could change how you see yourself - and your future? In this powerful peisode, Jonathan Van Ness shares the surprising phrase that helped them stop spiraling self-talk and start living with purpose, creativity, and courage. From overcoming people-pleasing to embracing their natural talents, JVN gets real about how they learned to let go of fear, find their voice, and thrive as their most authentic self.

Jonathan Van Ness is a New York Times bestselling author, comedian, host of Getting Curious, founder of JVN Hair, and beloved star of Queer Eye. Their new young adult novel Let Them Stare is a joyful celebration of queer identity, resilience, and possibility.

WHAT'S COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

02:50 - "Crop failure!" The 2-word mantra that changed everything 05:50 - Why fear means you're doing it right 09:07 - Behind the scenes of JVN's creative process 15:07 - Why going home could be the boldest move you make 18:02 - Finding the courage to be disliked 21:01 - Queer Eye secrets: how the show (and cast) evolved 24:05 - The hardest parts of helping others on-camera 27:14 - Internet fame vs. real life: JVN gets honest 31:21 - The unexpected grief that caught them off guard 36:51 - Healing, heartbreak, and the power of showing up 41:54 - How JVN built a team that actually supports them 44:45 - From impulsive shopper to financially free 51:51 - JVN's evolution as a comedian - and what's next

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