Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman The Nice Guy 9 & The Materialists Myth
Jul 29, 2025
In a deep dive into modern dating culture, the discussion critiques checklist dating and its impact on real connections. Listeners discover why the attractiveness of 'bad boys' may be more about temporary thrill than genuine desire. The Nice Guy Nine offers practical tips for meaningful engagement, such as creating presence, enhancing eye contact, and embracing unpredictability on dates. The episode encourages shifting away from superficial metrics toward true values-based dating, empowering individuals to rewrite their love stories.
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Stories Drive Dating Behavior
- Stories we tell ourselves shape dating expectations and behavior more than reality.
- Damona Hoffman says these narratives can be dangerous and limit how we show up in relationships.
Translate Criteria Into Needs
- Ask what checklist items really mean emotionally before searching for them.
- Damona Hoffman recommends translating demands like 'I need someone rich' into underlying needs like security.
Matchmaking Is Not Magical
- Matchmaking isn't magic and often serves a wealthy clientele.
- Damona Hoffman says good matchmakers mix coaching with searching, but you can replicate much of it yourself.
