Experiencing Joy While Our Hearts Are Broken: The Amen Effect
Jan 12, 2024
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Join a conversation with Rabbi Sharon Brous on finding joy amidst heartbreak, navigating grief, and the transformative journey of healing. Explore grief rituals, holding joy and sorrow simultaneously, and embracing the power of community in our collective healing process.
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Quick takeaways
Embracing joy and sorrow simultaneously is crucial for healing and navigating grief.
To avoid being overwhelmed by suffering, focus on helping one person at a time and fortify yourself against negativity.
Deep dives
Zooming in on the Ritual of Compassion
In this podcast episode, Rabbi Sharon Broughs discusses the profound teachings found in her book, The Amen Effect. She emphasizes the importance of community and connection in times of joy and grief. Broughs shares an ancient ritual of compassion from the Temple Mount in Jerusalem, where mourners walking in the opposite direction would be seen and blessed by others. She explains that retreating from community, especially during painful experiences, is common, but the ritual reminds us to step closer to one another and offer support. Broughs highlights the need for us to embrace joy and sorrow simultaneously, and she encourages parents to teach children how to hold space for both emotions. She also emphasizes the significance of choosing joy and engaging with the world, even in challenging times, while setting boundaries to avoid being overwhelmed.
Grieving Through Joy
Author Rabbi Sharon Broughs shares a personal story of her friend, Shifra, who tragically lost her partner. Shifra realized that her partner brought immense joy to her life, and the grieving rituals didn't fully capture his spirit. To honor his memory, Shifra practiced 18 minutes of joy each day during her year of grieving. Broughs explains that allowing ourselves to experience joy amidst pain is essential for replenishing our spirits and continuing to engage with the world. She encourages individuals to embrace moments of joy and not feel guilty or numb themselves due to the overwhelming sorrow present in the world.
Starting with One
Rabbi Sharon Broughs suggests that in the face of overwhelming suffering and the risk of psychic numbness, we must zoom back in and focus on helping one person at a time. She notes the importance of engaging tenderly and wisely, choosing to support and rehumanize one person's experience of pain. Broughs advises against becoming consumed by the cruelty and suffering pervasive in the world and instead advocates for selecting trustworthy sources of information that challenge our thinking while maintaining our mental and emotional well-being. She underscores the need to fortify ourselves against the world's suffering in order to continue engaging with love and empathy.
Balancing Joy and Sorrow
Rabbi Sharon Broughs explores the challenge of balancing joy and sorrow in our lives. She shares ancient rabbinic stories that shed light on responding to personal and collective trauma. Broughs emphasizes that even in moments of immense joy, it is important to remember and acknowledge those experiencing pain. She reminds us that we can continuously hold both joy and sorrow in our hearts, allowing ourselves to fully experience each emotion without avoiding or neglecting either. Broughs calls for embracing the imperative of joy while remaining present to the pain in the world, nurturing our spirits, and strengthening our capacity to navigate difficult times.
Join us for a profound conversation with Sharon Brous on finding joy amidst heartbreak, navigating grief, and the transformative journey of healing. We dive into grief rituals, how to hold joy and sorrow at the same time, and why we must embrace the power of community in our collective healing process.
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