Secret Service Agent Explains Psychological Tricks To Read Anyone & Spot A Liar
Jul 4, 2024
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Former Secret Service agent Evy Poumpouras shares psychological tricks for reading body language and spotting liars. She delves into decoding body language, detecting deception, and enhancing communication through paralinguistics. Evy emphasizes the importance of observing nonverbal cues, projecting confidence, and setting boundaries in personal and professional relationships.
Language cues like possessive pronouns indicate deception.
Charismatic behavior can signal dishonesty in individuals.
Body language alignment with verbal cues is crucial for detecting lies.
Deep dives
Detecting Deception
People showing up with a Bible for an interview or phrases like 'I swear to God' or 'on my mother's grave' were indicative of deception. Stalling tactics like asking 'Who, me?' or using possessive language were red flags. A key indicator was their answers not aligning with the questions asked.
Verbal Indicators
Charismatic charmers who overly ingratiate themselves can signal deceit. Language like 'I swear to God' or 'my car' versus 'the car' provided insights. Avoiding answering direct questions, stalling tactics, and off-topic responses also hinted at dishonesty.
Reading Body Language
Observing body language for alignment with verbal cues was crucial. Frontally aligned posture, eye contact, and facial expressions were telling. Watching for signs of nervousness, discomfort, or evasive maneuvers like shifting away or stalling, were key indicators.
Confidence and Observation
Building confidence involves learning from mistakes without being overly self-critical. Prioritizing observation, focusing on others, and reading the room for subtle cues aid in understanding people's intentions. Combining critical self-awareness with astute observation enhances the ability to discern truth.
Assessing Others Through Actions and Behaviors
Observing people's actions and behaviors can reveal more about them than their words. The importance of paying attention to indicators and behavior patterns to identify compatibility or conflicts, even without direct conversations. Addressing small issues promptly rather than allowing them to escalate helps maintain clarity and boundaries. Making space or cutting off relationships when necessary, based on discomfort or stress indicators, can lead to healthier dynamics.
Communication Strategies and Assertiveness
The significance of paralinguistics, tone, and pitch in communication effectiveness is highlighted. Emphasizing the impact of how information is delivered over the actual content shared for resonance. Advices include speaking concisely with authority, utilizing pauses for clarity, and avoiding overwhelming oneself with unnecessary details. Encouragement to embody confidence by owning one's voice and maintaining a presentational demeanor for impactful interactions.
Today, a secret service agent is teaching you how to read body language, master your emotions, and spot a liar.
In this one of a kind episode, agent Evy Poumpouras is unpacking proven strategies and psychological tricks to get what you want.
Evy is a former secret service agent who has protected 5 U.S presidents.
She is a “human lie detector” who has been specially trained in the art of lie detection, human behavior, and cognitive influence.
And today, she is giving you a masterclass of all of her best secrets from over 3 decades of training and experience.
Evy’s extensive and decorated career includes operating undercover, complex criminal investigations, and working as an interrogator for the Secret Service’s elite polygraph unit – and she’s here to arm you with information, tools, and strategies in this special episode.
For more resources, including links to Evy’s work, click here for the podcast episode page.