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Revisiting the Lower Desire Wife | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #721

Mar 26, 2025
Join Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality expert known for her insights on desire dynamics in marriage. They explore the complexities of the 'Lower Desire Wife,' shedding light on how societal pressures can shape women's experiences of intimacy. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-discovery and authenticity in fostering healthy relationships. Discover how predictability can stifle desire and why addressing resentments is crucial for deeper connections. Tune in for valuable perspectives on navigating desire within marriage!
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INSIGHT

Predictability Kills Desire

  • Desire often fades after falling-in-love because marriage brings predictability and shifted meaning to sex.
  • Jennifer Finlayson-Fife argues obligation and loss of self-reference kill desire in many marriages.
INSIGHT

Sex As Duty Undermines Authenticity

  • Roles that make sex primarily about satisfying the husband's needs remove authenticity and self-reference.
  • Finlayson-Fife shows this dynamic produces high/low desire extremes and undermines intimacy.
ADVICE

Name The Dysfunction To Change It

  • Expose the 'borrowed functioning' dynamic so couples can choose to break it.
  • Help partners see why they reasonably don't want the sex they're having and stop self-blame.
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