159. Healing the Emotionally Unavailable Man

Bryan Reeves sits down with renowned relationship coach and therapist Jayson Gaddis. Together they dive into the origins of men’s emotional unavailability, how childhood experiences shape intimacy in adulthood, and what it takes to build secure, nourishing partnerships. From personal stories of shame and armor to raising emotionally present sons, Jayson offers vulnerable insights and hard-won wisdom. This is a must-listen conversation for anyone who wants to understand why men struggle with intimacy—and how they can finally come home to their hearts.

⏱️ Highlights

00:00 – Welcome

02:45 – Bryan recalls Silvy's admiration for Jayson’s practical relationship wisdom

06:10 – The sixth-grade fight that taught Jayson to hide his sensitivity

12:25 – How shame around crying created lifelong armor

16:20 – From childhood wounds to emotional unavailability in adult relationships

21:15 – Teaching relationship skills to high schoolers: challenges & breakthroughs

26:30 – The greatest gift men can offer: emotional presence

32:40 – Navigating discipline, boundaries, and presence as a father and partner

38:00 – Mission Impossible vs. real life: balancing work, purpose, and family

43:20 – The foundation of intimacy: emotional security and safety

50:15 – Facing blind spots: learning to stop blaming and start owning feelings

56:45 – One foot in, one foot out: the cost of not being fully committed

01:04:00 – Why men chase “greener grass” fantasies—and the painful wake-up call

01:10:25 – Growth-oriented partnership: why your partner won’t stay if you stop growing

01:17:15 – Do men really want sex—or do they want intimacy and belonging?

01:23:00 – The Five Key Takeaways Finale: insight, mentor, resource, investment, practice

01:37:20 – Where to find Jayson Gaddis and his work

📬 Contact

Guest – Jayson Gaddis

• Website: https://relationshipschool.com
• Podcast: The Smart Couple (available on major platforms)

Host – Bryan Reeves

• Website: https://bryanreeves.com
• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight
• Men’s Coaching Program: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate