Dear Old Dads DOD246: When You Want Takesies Backsies on Being a Parent
Dec 19, 2025
What happens when parenthood feels more like a prison than a privilege? The hosts tackle a listener's regret, revealing that these feelings are more common than many admit. They explore the grief of lost freedom and emphasize the importance of accepting these emotions. Practical advice follows—don't make impulsive decisions during tough times. Personal stories of unexpected transitions highlight the need for resilience. With varied perspectives on parenthood, they encourage embracing the journey, flaws and all.
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Use Acceptance Therapy To Handle Regret
- Do not shame yourself for grieving the life you had before parenthood; acceptance-based therapy (ACT) can help you live with difficult thoughts.
- Read or listen to The Happiness Trap and practice ACT exercises to reduce the power of these persistent thoughts.
Don't Destroy Your Life During A Low Moment
- Avoid drastic life-ruining reactions when you feel trapped; don't start affairs, addiction, or self-destructive behavior.
- Hold steady until the feeling passes and seek healthier coping instead of immediate escape.
Make Responsibility A Point Of Pride
- Reframe responsibility as pride rather than burden to change how it feels to you.
- Tom Curry finds carrying others' needs makes him stand taller instead of bowing under weight.