#153 IMAGINE what you CAN ACHIEVE w/ THIS approach +fiery sex/ self control isnt the issue-Shannon Beer

Cognitive dissonance

You have to be aware of how you think to then address them

How we think about ourselves is how we perceive our environment and interactions

 so many people are so busy being human doings that they aren’t sitting with themselves to allow this growing process to happen

SO THEY STAY STUCK 

Slowing down to allow awareness and then ownership

Perfectionism – vs

Identifying with these labels

• identity and labels sabotage this and then lead into unrealistic expectations
• Must ___ or else ____
• Striving vs concerns
• Moving toward vs moving away from
• Discomfort

• Importance of RESTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
• writing
• hobbies

Allows more flexibility

Lag time for change

Striving for perfection can be harmful - you can want to be great without it becoming something crippling you as so many of us are scared of set backs, of failure.

Sometimes our personal standards become unrelenting.

We learn to base our self-worth on these pursuits.

Stop identifying with your failures. Mistakes don’t prevent us from reaching our goals.

• Stop identifying with your failures. Mistakes don’t prevent us from reaching our goals.
• The issue is that most of us are pretty hard on ourselves when we feel like we’ve slipped up.
• And it’s the way we respond to our mistakes that really matters.

• When we blame ourselves, not only does it make us feel bad, but this is usually where the ‘self-sabotage’ begins to occur.
• We’re total failures, so what does it matter now, right?
• And so the cycle begins.

• The mistake isn’t the problem. 
• One small slip up doesn’t make you a total failure.

• If you struggle with this, give the exercise on the slides a go.
• When you make an error, cross out one small I. 
• Recognise how the Big I (you) stays intact, even when you make a few mistakes.
• You can get comfortable looking at your mistakes without condemning yourself as a person.
• When you do, you can use your mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow.

body image bleeds into sexual satisfaction and libido -  approach to GOALS , food and training will reflect this AND HOW CONSISTENT youa re or arent - and how stuck you will get or not

It would take out the JOY from what they do and more so be focused on fixing it, and then the lack of sexual satisfaction is like a never ending cucle playing into how they feel about themself, their body their eating behavious etc and can lead to i guess more binging, emotional eating, but i think the biggest thing is not actually being okay to stop and really have time out to spend time with the self - so they never really work through the root of it all - perhaps you can dig into that, and how you usually would approach situations like this,

I guess both in only focusing solely on a physical pursuit and never digging deeper so they can actually achieve the results they are seeking that last for life, as well as working through those barriers to change due to discomfort.

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