Whether you consider yourself to be kinky or not, there’s a lot that all of us can learn from the kink community that could benefit our sex lives. Today, we’re going to explore five important things to know about cultivating safer, healthier, and more pleasurable sexual experiences. Along the way, we’re also going to dispel some common misconceptions about kink.

My guest is Claire Perelman, a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. You can find her on the socials at @sexclarified.

Some of the topics we address in this episode include:

• What are some of the biggest myths about the world of kink?
• What does negotiation during sex look like in practice?
• What is the importance of checking-in during sex and how do you go about this?
• How can we unburden ourselves of sexual shame and come to self-acceptance?
• If you’re looking to explore kink for the first time, what do you need to know?

You can check out Claire’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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