175: Marriage Guide - You’re Not the Man She Married & This Is Why She Doesn’t Feel Safe With You
Jul 14, 2025
Dive into the dynamics of marriage where becoming an emotional anchor is key. Discover why emotional safety is often the missing link in relationships. Explore how men can foster deeper connections and effective conflict management to avoid chaos. Learn about the traps of modern masculinity and the importance of leadership in the home. This enlightening discussion encourages men to lead with courage and compassion, shifting the focus from fleeting successes to creating a stable, loving environment.
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Men Lose Target After Dating
Men often lose their clear target after dating, shifting focus away from emotional connection.
The main target in marriage is building a deeply connected relationship, not just marriage or sex.
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Build Emotional Safety Bubble
Create a bubble of emotional safety in your home where everyone feels safe, seen, and known.
Foster trust by being emotionally consistent and nurturing within your family environment.
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Conflict Builds Emotional Safety
Healthy conflict is necessary for emotional safety; avoiding conflict causes people to walk on eggshells.
Love and safety can exist even amid disagreements if conflict is handled well.
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This week on the BraveCo. Podcast, I'm diving deep into one of the most critical topics in marriage: becoming the anchor. As a pastor, counselor, and man who's walked through my own challenges, I’ve seen too many relationships fail simply because men have no idea what it means to lead emotionally. We aim for the wrong things—sex, status, success—and miss the real target: building a home where our wives and kids feel safe, seen, and known.
I get raw and real about the dangers of emotional unpredictability, the breakdown of leadership in the home, and what happens when men abandon their responsibility. I share personal stories, hard truths, and practical wisdom about how we bring peace to chaos—not by being perfect, but by being consistent, present, and emotionally grounded. Your role as a man isn’t to dominate—it’s to lead with courage, clarity, and compassion.
This episode is for every man who wants more from his marriage. If you’re tired of the disconnect, the arguments, or feeling like roommates instead of lovers, it’s time to shift your target. You are the anchor. And when you own that role, everything changes.
Chapters: 00:00 - Why Men Feel Lost in Modern Masculinity 00:34 - The Real Target in Marriage (And It’s Not Sex) 02:12 - Dating vs. Marriage: When the Aim Shifts 03:55 - Emotional Safety: The Missing Link in Most Homes 06:06 - What Happens in a Home Without Connection 09:05 - The Hidden Power of Healthy Conflict 11:03 - God’s Design for Men: Bring Peace to Chaos 14:05 - Why Avoiding Responsibility Breeds Chaos 17:13 - Emotional Predictability: The Anchor Your Wife Needs 24:00 - Reclaiming Leadership Without Controlling Her
ABOUT BRAVECO We live in a time where men are hunting for the truth and looking for the codebook to manhood. At BraveCo, we are on a mission to heal the narrative of masculinity across a generation; fighting the good fight together because every man should feel confident and capable of facing his pain, loving deeply, and leading a life that impacts the world around him.
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