175: Marriage Guide - You’re Not the Man She Married & This Is Why She Doesn’t Feel Safe With You

This week on the BraveCo. Podcast, I'm diving deep into one of the most critical topics in marriage: becoming the anchor. As a pastor, counselor, and man who's walked through my own challenges, I’ve seen too many relationships fail simply because men have no idea what it means to lead emotionally. We aim for the wrong things—sex, status, success—and miss the real target: building a home where our wives and kids feel safe, seen, and known.

I get raw and real about the dangers of emotional unpredictability, the breakdown of leadership in the home, and what happens when men abandon their responsibility. I share personal stories, hard truths, and practical wisdom about how we bring peace to chaos—not by being perfect, but by being consistent, present, and emotionally grounded. Your role as a man isn’t to dominate—it’s to lead with courage, clarity, and compassion.

This episode is for every man who wants more from his marriage. If you’re tired of the disconnect, the arguments, or feeling like roommates instead of lovers, it’s time to shift your target. You are the anchor. And when you own that role, everything changes.

Chapters:
00:00 - Why Men Feel Lost in Modern Masculinity
00:34 - The Real Target in Marriage (And It’s Not Sex)
02:12 - Dating vs. Marriage: When the Aim Shifts
03:55 - Emotional Safety: The Missing Link in Most Homes
06:06 - What Happens in a Home Without Connection
09:05 - The Hidden Power of Healthy Conflict
11:03 - God’s Design for Men: Bring Peace to Chaos
14:05 - Why Avoiding Responsibility Breeds Chaos
17:13 - Emotional Predictability: The Anchor Your Wife Needs
24:00 - Reclaiming Leadership Without Controlling Her

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