The Dr. John Delony Show I Resent My Husband When He’s Away
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Jan 19, 2026 Mary, a mother of five, opens up about her feelings of bitterness when her husband takes personal time. She explores how childhood experiences shape her emotions and the unhealthy scorekeeping that creeps into their relationship. John Delony provides practical advice, encouraging her to anticipate her husband's delays and foster kindness upon his return. Together, they discuss the importance of intentional communication and planning for a more harmonious marriage. It's an eye-opening conversation about understanding resentment and nurturing connections.
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Young Mom Feeling Bitter About Husband's Downtime
- Mary is 29, married nearly 10 years, pregnant with her sixth child and has five kids eight and under. She loves her husband but feels bitter when he takes personal downtime like hunting weekends.
Feelings Are Dashboard Lights, Not Final Judgments
- John reframes feelings as dashboard lights: emotions signal something but don't always mean a broken relationship. He suggests not over-intellectualizing feelings or assigning subconscious meaning to every emotion.
Fairness As An Anxiety Coping Mechanism
- John identifies an internal 'fairness' or scorekeeping trait as a coping mechanism for feeling out of control. He warns this can become a drug-like anti-anxiety strategy that fuels rage instead of safety.
