Overcoming Difficulty in Orgasming with a Partner

One of the most common difficulties people face in orgasming with a partner is addressed in this episode. It is known as secondary anorgasmia, where individuals have orgasms under some circumstances but not others. The solution lies in gradually exposing oneself to the presence of a partner during solo activities. This can involve using graded exposure techniques, starting with a photo of the partner visible during masturbation and gradually increasing the level of exposure. By training the brain to associate the partner's presence with pleasure, the breaks in the dual control mechanism can be gradually eased, allowing for orgasm even with a partner in the room.