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UnHerd with Freddie Sayers

Valentine's Debate: Is romance dead?

Feb 14, 2025
Poppy Sowerby, a keen observer of modern relationships, joins writers Freya India, known for her insights on love, and Sheehan Quirke of The Cultural Tutor fame. Together, they unravel the complexities of romance in 2025, discussing the impact of dating apps on emotional connections. They explore the tension between convenience and authenticity, challenge stereotypes of male romance discussions, and advocate for reclaiming vulnerability in love. Amidst societal pressures, they inspire hope for a re-enchantment of romance in a digital age.
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Quick takeaways

  • The decline of traditional romance is evident as fewer young adults are marrying, reflecting a deep societal shift in intimacy.
  • Dating apps commodify romantic interactions, transforming genuine connections into marketing exercises, leading to angst and superficiality.

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The State of Modern Romance

The discussion begins with an exploration of the decline of traditional romance, highlighting that fewer young adults are getting married and birth rates are dropping significantly. There is concern about an ongoing 'war on romance,' with dating apps creating a landscape filled with choice but leading to anxiety and disconnection. This societal shift is reflected in cultural products, such as films, with the percentage of romantic films significantly decreasing from nearly 35% in 2000 to 8% today. The speakers argue that this trend points to a deeper change in how intimacy and relationships are perceived and pursued in contemporary society.

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