Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

A Toddler's Do-It-Myself Attitude Ends In Tantrums

Jul 9, 2018

The podcast discusses how to handle a toddler's desire for independence, offering strategies for setting limits while respecting autonomy. It also explores supporting toddlers through transitions and tantrums, emphasizing the value of allowing independence to build confidence and understanding genuine needs for autonomy.

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Acknowledge and praise child's efforts to reinforce independence during challenges.

Maintain a calm and validating response during toddler tantrums to avoid undermining confidence and self-esteem.

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Encouraging Independence in Toddlers

The podcast discusses a parent's concern about their two-year-old child's 'want to do it myself' phase and the challenges faced when the child struggles to complete tasks independently. The parent seeks advice on how to respect the child's need for autonomy while maintaining structure. The podcast emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and praising the child's efforts, even in the face of difficulties, to reinforce their independence and positive behavior. It suggests providing gentle guidance and support during transitional moments when children may need more assistance and understanding.

Introduction

2min

Navigating a Toddler's Desire for Independence Amidst Delays and Tantrums

5min

Supporting Toddlers Through Transitions

5min

Supporting Toddler Independence and Autonomy during Transitions and Tantrums

4min

Understanding and Nurturing Children's Independence

2min

A parent writes that her 2-year-old is deep in a "want to do it myself" phase. While she recognizes her son’s need for autonomy and self-sufficiency, she admits that she often runs out of patience, which results in him having a full-blown meltdown or tantrum. She’s wondering how she might “set limits so it doesn’t take forever to do things but also respect his need for independence.”

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ). Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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