Sex for Saints Episode 369 - Are You Initiating Too Much?
May 16, 2025
Feeling burnt out from always being the one to initiate sex? This discussion dives into the struggles of the higher desire partner who faces rejection and inquiries about the balance in sexual dynamics. Discover how constant initiating can impact relationships and the importance of communication. Explore the role of emotional vulnerability and whether stepping back from initiation can restore intimacy. Perfect for anyone wondering why they're the only one trying in their relationship!
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Why People Initiate Sex
- Initiation comes from many healthy reasons like closeness, arousal, or reconnection.
- Amanda Lauder warns some initiation stems from anxiety, seeking validation, or fear of no sex at all.
More Sex Can Still Feel One-Sided
- More frequent initiation increases encounters but can make sex feel one-sided and pressured.
- Amanda Lauder notes that a habitual initiator often becomes the chaser while the other partner feels pursued and pressured.
Couple Where Yes Feels Like Pity
- A husband initiated daily but felt his wife's yeses were pity rather than desire.
- The wife said she never had space to want it because he asked the moment she relaxed.