Here's a practical exercise to get to the core of your being through challenging and chizzling away at the social norms projected onto us. These projected identities are not who we are but who others think we are, and we play the role accordingly, UNLESS we challenge these. When we begin to challenge them, we transcend the meaning of the labels and expectations. Trimming away others' expectations of us is how we get to our core of being. Identification comes with conflict of belonging and not belonging and that struggle ought to guide us in the direction of BEING rather than performing for approval to associate according to our identities.