I Wish You Knew The Real Reason Wives Stop Wanting Sex | Adam Lane Smith
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Nov 21, 2025 Monica Almaguer, a marriage adviser and creator of Modern Marriage with Monica, shares her insights on rejuvenating sexual desire in long-term relationships. She discusses her own transformation with hormone replacement therapy and how it reignited intimacy with her husband. The duo explores the impact of emotional connection, the roles of oxytocin and testosterone, and offers practical advice like collaborative experiments for couples. Monica emphasizes the necessity of communication and appreciation in nurturing a lasting bond.
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Hormone Replacement Sparked A Sexual Renaissance
- Monica discovered she was postmenopausal and started bioidentical hormones including testosterone which dramatically raised her libido.
- Her sex life increased from about once a week to two to four times weekly and triggered a positive feedback loop with her husband.
Oxytocin Keeps Desire Warm
- Adam explains oxytocin sustains affectionate, bonding sex while testosterone jump-starts desire.
- High oxytocin shifts sex from quick relief to lovemaking and strengthens reciprocal hormonal boosts.
Let Actions Speak First
- Monica recommends trying behavior change privately first to observe genuine partner reaction without expectation.
- She advises judging partners by their efforts rather than their words when evaluating change.