Inner Work With MaryAnn Walker: Stop People Pleasing and Start Honoring You! 97: The People Pleaser's Dilemma: Authenticity vs. Approval
Apr 11, 2024
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Main Ideas: People Pleasing
- People pleasers often focus more on how others perceive them rather than their own feelings towards others.
- Insecurity is one reason people try to win over others, even at the risk of inauthentic living.
- Constant pressure to meet others' expectations can create anxiety and stress.
- Unfulfilling relationships result from trying to win approval at the sacrifice of true compatibility.
- A lack of boundaries and loss of self-esteem are two potential outcomes of seeking external validation.
Four Steps to Shift Mindset
- Noticing Opportunities: Being aware of people with similar interests that are open to conversation.
- Approaching with Authenticity: Engaging in genuine interactions based on shared interests.
- Embracing Uniqueness: Recognizing it's okay to be different and connecting with those who appreciate individuality.
- Seeking Meaningful Connections: Prioritizing quality over quantity, aiming for deeper, one-on-one interactions.
Reflection and Call to Action
- Reflect on current relationships: Can you be authentic or do you feel the need to compromise to please others?
- Embrace your uniqueness and seek connections with those who resonate with you.
- Shift from seeking approval to building self-confidence and enjoying meaningful connections.
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Conclusion
- Encouragement to prioritize authenticity and meaningful connections, letting go of the pressure to win everyone's approval.
- The goal isn't to please everyone, but to find those who genuinely resonate with you.
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