Rena Malik, MD Podcast The Real Reason People Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner
Jan 16, 2026
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Frankie Bashan, a clinical psychologist and board-certified sex therapist, dives into the psychology of modern dating. She shares insights on how attachment styles influence partner choices and why people often repeat unhealthy patterns. The duo tackles the impact of dating apps, the importance of effective communication, and the rise of consensual non-monogamy. Listeners will also learn about the significance of sexual fluidity and practical tips for navigating intimacy and kinks, making this conversation both enlightening and entertaining.
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Paradox Of Choice In Modern Dating
- Modern dating creates unrealistic expectations and a paradox of choice that increases anxiety and depression.
- Dr. Frankie Bashan says social media tells us "you deserve the best," which makes people less satisfied with real matches.
We Date Familiar Patterns
- People unconsciously seek partners who feel familiar, often repeating patterns from childhood like attracting narcissists.
- Dr. Frankie Bashan uses attachment history and early relationships to explain persistent attraction patterns.
Lower Expectations; Give People A Chance
- Lower your expectations and give people a chance to show who they are before dismissing them.
- Dr. Frankie Bashan advises practicing gratitude and noticing what you value in a person rather than fixating on one unmet ideal.