On Attachment #196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships
Jul 8, 2025
Explore the intricate dance between the fear of abandonment and self-abandonment in relationships. Discover how anxious attachment can lead to neglecting your own needs while striving for connection. Delve into the costs of disconnecting from your truth and the vital importance of cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself. Uncover why recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing and developing more authentic connections.
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Self-abandonment Drives Anxious Behavior
- Self-abandonment underlies many anxious attachment behaviors such as people-pleasing and boundary issues.
- It involves trading self-authenticity for connection to others to avoid fear of abandonment.
Why Self-Abandonment Happens
- Self-abandonment is a protective strategy rooted in early fears of being left alone and unsafe.
- Understanding why we self-abandon helps us create inner safety rather than simply trying to stop the behavior.
Begin Healing with Resources
- Use available free resources or courses like Healing Anxious Attachment to begin healing from self-abandonment.
- Seek practical tools and knowledge to build a secure inner relationship.