#1184 - 95% of Parents Don’t Have This One Thing - But We All NEED It

Ever cringed at a recording of your own voice? Imagine watching your daily parenting played back on video. In this raw and honest episode, Dr Justin Coulson shares how a humbling surfing experience revealed the game-changing power of self-awareness in parenting. Discover why 95% of parents think they're self-aware (but only 10-15% actually are), and learn the three practical steps to close your own self-awareness gap. Warning: might involve some uncomfortable truths!

Quote of the Episode: "Sometimes our most uncomfortable moments of self-awareness become our greatest opportunities for transformation."

Key Insights:

• Only 10-15% of people are truly self-aware, despite 95% thinking they are
• Self-aware parents show improved emotional awareness of themselves and their children
• Video feedback leads to significant improvements in parenting behaviours
• Small, focused improvements are more effective than trying to fix everything at once
• Regular feedback and reflection are crucial for growth
• Self-awareness impacts relationship quality with children
• The gap between perceived and actual parenting skills often requires objective feedback
• Incremental improvements lead to sustainable change

Resources Mentioned:

• Tasha Eurich's research on self-awareness
• Research on video feedback in parenting
• Happy Families

Action Steps for Parents:

1. Create Your Own "Surf Video Moment"
• Record interactions with children
• Ask for specific feedback from family members
• Be prepared for initial discomfort
2. Ask the "What's One Thing?" Question
• Seek specific, focused feedback daily
• Make improvements manageable
• Focus on one area at a time
3. Practice Daily Reflection
• Spend 5 minutes journaling each evening
• Note one positive interaction and one area for improvement
• Track progress over time

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