Dr. Robert Glover: Why "Nice Guys" Struggle To Create Attraction (And What Actually Works) | EP 61

Dr. Robert Glover is back for his second round on Heart of Man...

For anyone not yet familiar with his work, Dr. Glover is a renowned therapist, speaker, and coach, and the author of the best-selling book "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

Over the last four decades, he's been shedding light on what he calls Nice Guy Syndrome and has helped countless men across the globe in life, sex, and relating.

In that time he has authored four books and, in 2023, founded "Integration Nation", an international community for men.

After participating alongside Robert at a five-day men’s retreat with John Wineland in Northern California, I invited him back for a second conversation.

Since we laid the foundations in our first episode around Nice Guy Syndrome and why Nice Guys struggle in love and life, I wanted to focus this time on dating and attraction, especially given Dr. Glover’s widely popular book "Dating Essentials for Men".

In this conversation we specifically explore what leads women to lose attraction to “Nice Guys,” and how men can lead more powerfully in dating and keep the spark alive in their current relationships.

In this interview discover:

• What leads men to pre-reject themselves, and how they can start saying yes to life and walk through the doors that are already open.

• Our experiences of being in connection with other men, doing men’s work, and how this inner work impacts our relationship to women.

• Why Robert does not believe in “approaching” women and why he favors an attraction model for dating.

• What Nice Guys get wrong about dating.

• What leads men to hide their sexual agenda, and how to be more honest about one's intentions.

• Why having a pre-sex talk and creating a clear container can be valuable before engaging with any woman.

• Why, in Robert’s words, women are “sexual Ferraris,” and men are “sexual mopeds,” and what that actually points to.

• What positive emotional tension is, why it matters to women, and practical ways to create it.

• Why the meaning of life is to get our hearts broken, and consequently, that the key to life is learning to suffer well.