Have you ever been really anxious or upset, and you think to yourself, "Why am I so angry right now? This is strange." That is your observing self. Is this something you can always access, this part of you that is not affected by the overwhelming thoughts, emotions, and feelings? When it comes to things like pornography addiction, this is a key pivot. This allows you to take a step back and see the entire picture without getting consumed by cravings and urges.
Here is the Self-as-Context handout for some exercises you can try to practice this pivot: Click here