The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About
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May 29, 2023
Discover the viral 'Let Them Theory,' a game-changing mindset that empowers you to release control for emotional peace. Explore how controlling behaviors stem from deep fears and the magic of letting others make their own choices, especially children. Learn to navigate relationships with greater understanding and acceptance, reducing conflicts in the process. Through personal anecdotes, find out how giving space fosters accountability and healthier connections. It's time to embrace simplicity and liberation!
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Pre-Prom Dinner Debacle
Mel Robbins' son, Oakley, and his friends decided to go to a small taco place for pre-prom dinner despite a downpour.
Mel's anxiety and over-functioning kicked in until her daughter reminded her to "let them."
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Letting Go and Finding Peace
Letting go creates peace and surrender instead of emotional escalation.
The "let them" theory helps manage controlling tendencies and promotes emotional peace.
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Feeling Left Out
Feeling left out stings, like when friends go on trips without you.
Use the "let them" theory in these situations for emotional relief.
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I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.
I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.
The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.
And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.
I can bottom line this in one sentence:
When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.
11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.
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