The Let Them Theory encourages detachment from situations and people's actions, allowing you to focus on your own fulfillment instead of feeling hurt or left out.
The Let Them Theory emphasizes the power of giving people the space to fail and learn from their mistakes, promoting personal responsibility and growth.
Deep dives
Using the Let Them Theory to Detach
The Let Them Theory encourages detachment from situations and people's actions. It involves letting go of expectations and allowing others to make their own choices. For example, if friends go on a trip without inviting you, instead of feeling hurt or left out, you can practice the Let Them Theory by accepting their decision and focusing on your own fulfillment.
Letting People Learn from Failure
The Let Them Theory emphasizes giving people the space to fail and learn from their mistakes. By resisting the urge to constantly rescue or control others, you allow them to develop personal responsibility and grow. Whether it's allowing a child to forget their lunch or letting a friend face the consequences of their actions, giving people the freedom to experience failure can be a powerful tool for growth.
Letting People Be Themselves
The Let Them Theory promotes accepting people as they are and refraining from trying to change them. When you focus on someone's potential and constantly try to mold them to fit your desires, you're not truly accepting them. By embracing others' true selves, you foster authenticity, create healthier relationships, and allow them the freedom to express themselves without judgment or control.
Applying the Let Them Theory to Overcome Jealousy and Control
The Let Them Theory also addresses jealousy and controlling behavior. It emphasizes letting go of jealousy and allowing people to have their own friendships, interests, and emotions without trying to control or change them. By focusing on self-acceptance and supporting others' autonomy, you can cultivate more love, peace, and ease in your relationships.
I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.
I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.
The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.
And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.
I can bottom line this in one sentence:
When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.
11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.