131: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People

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Mar 28, 2025

What if the partners you keep attracting are mirroring your own emotional patterns? This discussion delves into the nuances of emotional availability and highlights the impacts of past experiences on current relationships. It emphasizes the importance of genuine interactions over grand gestures and accountability in fostering healthier connections. Listeners learn about recognizing emotional patterns, the value of vulnerability, and practical strategies for nurturing true relationships. It's a bold exploration of why emotional safety begins with you.

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Mirror Effect of Emotional Availability

Attracting emotionally unavailable people reflects your own emotional availability and past patterns.
Emotional distance may feel safe when familiar from early caregiver relationships.

ANECDOTE

Sabrina's Story of Emotional Distance

Sabrina shared how her emotionally unavailable father struggled with her fear and discomfort.
His avoidance amplified her sense of emotional distance as the only safe way.

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Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man

Sabrina recalled dating an emotionally unavailable man who used excuses and semantic tricks.
She ended the relationship after seeing his pattern of inconsistency and hiding her in public.

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What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just tired of dating people who can’t show up, this episode will hit home. Sabrina breaks down the signs of real emotional availability, how to check in with your nervous system, and practical tools to stop performing and start connecting. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” — this one’s for you.

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