It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People New Ways for Families
Parents divorcing in protracted battles. Crowded family court dockets. Kids who spend their childhood with nervous stomachs, anxiety, and a yearning for their parents to just get along. A typical high-conflict divorce and co-parenting situation.
Most parents are able to work things out amicably but around 15-20% comprise the cases on the family court dockets. They are seemingly unable to resolve disputes and bring disputes to the court that others can work out themselves.
What makes them different? And what works for them? Bill Eddy interviews Susie Rayner, GradDip FDRP, who is the New Ways Program Manager for the High Conflict Institute. Susie is visiting the U.S. for the Association of Family & Conciliation Courts conference from her homeland, Australia.
Bill and Susie dive into the program that Bill created back in 2009 to help high conflict divorcing or separated parents—New Ways for Families®. It’s different from other co-parenting and divorce education courses because it focuses on teaching skills to handle conflict instead of lecturing about the do’s and don’ts of co-parenting. Listen in as Bill and Susie discuss New Ways for Families and how it helps parents get along and save lots of time, frustration and money; and how it helps the courts reduce their caseloads as the parents learn to make decisions without court.
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THE NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES PROGRAM
BOOKS
ARTICLES
- How is New Ways for Families® Different Than A Parenting Class?
- New Ways Parent-Child Talk: What to say to your children during this time of transition
- Why New Ways for Families® is Going Online
GUEST BIO
SUSIE RAYNER, GradDip FDRP
Susie Rayner is the New Ways Program Manager for the High Conflict Institute. She manages each sub-brand of New Ways, including New Ways for Families, New Ways for Work, New Ways for Life, and New Ways for Mediation. Susie is a mediator, co-parenting coach, and was the founder of Mediate Negotiate, a family dispute resolution practice in Australia. Prior to becoming a dedicated family dispute resolution practitioner and family coach in 2018, she held positions in the corporate arena for 20 years. She also works in other areas of dispute resolution and volunteers with organizations that support people in crisis. She is the co-author of New Ways for Life™ Teacher Guide and Student Journal with Bill Eddy.
Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
- (02:23) - Meet Susie Rayner
- (03:41) - New Ways for Families
- (10:32) - Putting It Into Practice
- (13:40) - Other Areas for Use
- (16:30) - Helping Parents Make Big Decisions
- (18:29) - Not Law-Based
- (20:36) - Success Story
- (26:22) - The New Ways for Life Method
- (31:58) - The Four Big Skills
- (35:34) - Reminders & Coming Next Week:
- (35:35) - Last Thoughts
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