On Attachment #5: 5 Traits of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
Apr 29, 2022
Exploring the traits of the fearful avoidant attachment style, including conflicting desires for intimacy and fear, difficulties with trust and fear of betrayal, high emotional intelligence, self-sabotaging behaviors, guilt, and shame. The challenges in relationships with anxious attachment styles and the importance of creating safety and acceptance for individuals with a fearful avoidant attachment style.
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Fearful Avoidant Attachment Complexity
- Fearful avoidant attachment is marked by inner conflict and lack of reliable strategies to get needs met.
- This leads to chaos and inner turmoil, making it the most challenging style to live with.
Longing and Fear Coexist
- Fearful avoidant individuals crave intimacy but feel overwhelming fear and suffocation from closeness.
- They differ from dismissive avoidants who outwardly reject needing others, as fearful avoidants still seek connection.
Mixed Anxious and Avoidant Patterns
- Fearful avoidants display both anxious and avoidant behaviors, often flipping between them or showing both simultaneously.
- Their behavior shifts depending on partner type and relationship stress, causing inconsistency and push-pull dynamics.