The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish #75 Suzanne Iasenza: Rewriting Relationship Narratives
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Feb 4, 2020 In this engaging discussion, Dr. Suzanne Iasenza, a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, dives into how our personal narratives shape every facet of our relationships. She reveals the transformative power of understanding these stories to improve communication and intimacy. Iasenza also addresses the complexities of female desire and the importance of emotional connection in intimacy. Additionally, she offers insights on navigating relationship breakdowns and the value of proactive nurturing to sustain love through changing dynamics.
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Unconscious Projections
- Deeper issues in relationships often stem from unconscious projections of past experiences onto partners.
- Increased intimacy can worsen problems due to these projections surfacing.
The Narrative of Desire
- The concept of sexual desire as a prerequisite for sex is a relatively recent narrative, only existing since the 1970s.
- This narrative can create problems for couples, especially those experiencing low desire.
Female Arousal
- For women, desire often follows arousal, not the other way around, contrary to traditional models.
- This has led to the removal of "sexual desire disorder" diagnoses for women in the DSM.