Brendan O'Connor “I had a deep fear that I would be a bad dad because of my childhood” - Richard Hogan
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Nov 8, 2025 Richard Hogan, a psychotherapist and author specializing in parenting, dives into the complexities of fatherhood. He explores the evolution of dad roles and the pressure to overcome traumatic childhood patterns. Hogan emphasizes the importance of positive masculinity and the balance between guiding children and allowing them to grow independently. He discusses how to set family values, the significance of humor and play in bonding, and practical approaches for single parents. His insights offer a refreshing perspective on resilience in parenting.
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Model Positive Masculinity
- Positive masculinity models show children being strong and emotional without violence.
- Dr. Richard Hogan argues vulnerability is a form of male strength and must be modelled by fathers.
Hold While Letting Go
- Give children 'held autonomy' to explore while you provide support and boundaries.
- Dr. Richard Hogan calls becoming who you are the core task parents should enable.
Fear Sparked Conscious Change
- Richard feared he would repeat his absent father's mistakes when his first daughter was born.
- That fear prompted conscious work on his future self and became a healing turning point.
