Coaching for Leaders 546: How to Speak Up, with Connson Locke
Sep 20, 2021
Connson Locke, a seasoned educator and consultant from the London School of Economics, dives into the art of speaking up. She shares research-backed strategies for managing negative emotions and fostering a growth mindset. Locke emphasizes the importance of deliberate practice and reframing power dynamics in conversations. Personal stories illustrate her journey to confident self-expression, including navigating wedding planning. Finally, she discusses the balance between pleasure and purpose in our free time, urging listeners to engage in purposeful activities for personal growth.
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The Wedding Spreadsheet
- Connson Locke hesitated to interrupt her husband's movie to discuss wedding plans, assuming he wouldn't want to be disturbed.
- He later revealed he'd already seen the movie, highlighting how she'd stifled her own voice.
Cultural Influence and Personal Growth
- Connson Locke's upbringing in a traditional Chinese household, where children were expected to be seen and not heard, shaped her initial reticence.
- Overcoming various challenges and painful experiences helped her realize her voice deserved to be heard.
Managing Negative Emotions
- Manage negative emotions like fear or anger, as they signal something needing attention.
- View negative emotions as a message to understand, rather than letting them control you.
