Stronger Marriage Connection Establishing Household Roles: Tips For Couples to Avoid Conflict | Dr. Julie Hanks | #119
Feb 10, 2025
Dr. Julie Hanks, a licensed therapist and expert in family dynamics, joins the discussion to tackle the tricky topic of household roles. She emphasizes the significance of valuing unpaid labor to foster equitable partnerships. The conversation highlights the pitfalls of traditional gender roles, urging couples to communicate openly about expectations and contributions. Tips on preventing resentment through shared responsibilities are shared, along with strategies to recognize and appreciate the often invisible work each partner does, ultimately strengthening relationships.
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Early Partnership
- Julie Hanks questioned traditional assumptions about household chores early in her marriage.
- She split wedding thank-you notes equally with her husband, rejecting the expectation that it was solely her responsibility.
Shared Decisions
- Determine household roles together, considering each person's preferences and strengths.
- Don't default to traditional gender roles without discussion.
Shared Responsibility
- Reframe requests for help with chores as contributions to shared family life.
- Avoid phrases like "help me" and use "help us" or "contribute to our family."
