Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

What Can I Do When I Find My Adorable Children Annoying?

Nov 23, 2018

Experts discuss navigating the challenges of parenting, understanding and responding to annoying behaviors, setting personal boundaries with children, and exploring annoyance and repairing with children.

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Acknowledging that annoyance is a natural part of the parent-child relationship and understanding children's behaviors as normal ways to convey emotions without taking them personally can reduce annoyance and create a more peaceful environment.

Accepting that loving our children means embracing their uncomfortable and annoying aspects, alongside the joyful moments, and reframing expectations around quality time can help parents navigate challenging emotions with greater ease.

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Dealing with Annoyance Towards Children

It's normal for parents to find their children annoying at times. Instead of feeling guilty or judging oneself, it's important to understand that annoyance is a natural part of any relationship. Children's immature emotional development can lead to annoying behaviors such as whining, repetitive questions, and physical actions. Reacting to these behaviors can inadvertently reinforce them. Parents should try to perceive these expressions as normal ways for children to convey their feelings without taking them personally. Allowing children to express their emotions and setting personal boundaries can help to reduce annoyance and foster a more peaceful environment.

Introduction

2min

Navigating the Challenges of Parenting

4min

Understanding and Responding to Annoying Behaviors

7min

Setting Personal Boundaries with Children

3min

Exploring Annoyance and Repairing with Children

2min

Janet responds to an email from the exasperated mother of two boys who asks: “What do I do when I find my adorable children genuinely annoying?” She remembers a time when she was happy with them and enjoyed what felt like precious moments, but lately there’s been very little joy in her parenting experience, and she feels that their behavior is exacerbated by her attitude. “It breaks my heart,” she writes. She’s looking for tools to change her perspective.

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on audio, FREE with a 30-day trial membership at Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also, her exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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