#28: How to Create Deep Connection, No Matter Who's Around You

If you wanted to grow bigger muscles, you could read all the strength training books you wanted. But until you go to the gym and apply your knowledge to your body, your muscles will never grow. 

That’s the same way the muscle of connection works. But for some reason, high achievers especially are prone to fall into the trap of thinking they can build connection by listening to podcasts, reading books, or even going into individual therapy. 

This misses the mark that connection is a skill. And the only way to improve at a skill is to practice it with other people. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover why connection is a skill that can be honed with practice, how to start practicing it (even if it feels uncomfortable), and what your life could be like with intentional practice. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to rewire your nervous system to be okay with vulnerability (and why you must do this if you want to experience true connection) (1:49) 
• 5 ways to practice the skill of connection if you think you’re not wired for connection (3:44) 
• The weird way your habits, emotions, and health are influenced by a friend of a friend of a friend (6:58) 
• Why being able to figure things out on your own is actually a massive hindrance to connection (11:47) 
• The “immersion” secret that explains why reading more books, listening to more podcasts, and trying to logic your way to emotional depth can never work (14:30) 

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