ManTalks Podcast A Man's Guide To Ending Shame
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Apr 25, 2024 Explore the roots of shame, its connection to trauma, and the challenge of overcoming it. Learn about the somatic component, the physical side of shame, and the importance of seeking professional help. Discover ten ways to break free, including using curiosity, mindfulness skills, and reframing shame as a belief rather than identity. Embrace honest conversations and practice assertiveness to combat shame in a supportive group setting.
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Shame as a Belief System
- Shame is a cognitive story, a belief system of not being good enough.
- It's a feeling of being fundamentally wrong, unlike guilt, which focuses on actions.
Shame as Survival
- Shame is a survival response, like fight-or-flight, protecting us in threatening environments.
- It becomes a belief system when the physiological response gets internalized.
Physical Response to Shame
- Shame has a powerful physical response, shutting down the body and reinforcing negative beliefs.
- This makes it difficult to challenge those beliefs, as the body resists change.