Emancipate Your Mind Emancipate Your Mind: 082: Building Interdependent Relationships (Part 1) with Kevin Hales
Sep 18, 2022
In this enlightening discussion, Kevin Hales, a licensed professional counselor specializing in couples therapy, delves into the complexities of interdependence in relationships. He highlights how healing from codependency can lead to extreme independence, both of which can be damaging. Kevin emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, the evolution of emotional needs, and the significance of self-love and identity in cultivating healthy connections. He also shares insights into overcoming loneliness while navigating societal pressures around relationships.
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Spectrum vs Binary Thinking
- Many behaviors exist on spectrums rather than strict binaries, like codependency and independence.
- Extremes on these spectrums are often unhealthy; balance is key for well-being.
Codependency and Selfishness Spectrum
- Codependency is viewed negatively like selfishness though both are extremes on a spectrum.
- Extreme selflessness is unhealthy, just as is extreme selfishness.
Fight or Flight and Relationships
- The brain's fight or flight responses represent extremes needing balance.
- Healthy relationships also require finding a middle ground between dependence and independence.