We will learn:

• Why trying harder to face your fears, and using willpower to force decisions, simply do not work.
• Why avoidance reinforces anticipatory anxiety and chronic indecisiveness.
• The five steps of surrender to overcome indecision.

If you look up why people are indecisive, you’ll get a number of answers like people pleasing, perfectionism, or a fear of taking responsibility.. but all of these come back to one thing: anticipatory anxiety.

Anticipatory anxiety is essentially getting anxious about the possibility of being anxious. It’s when you basically get hijacked by your own imagination.

But the thing is, indecision is not a personality trait. It’s a behavioral problem.
The good news is, that means it can be changed. And in order to change it, it’s helpful to understand our personal areas of sensitivity, the patterns we create when we avoid decisions, and the underlying issues that can cause it. So that’s what we’re talking about today.

Our guest is Dr. Sally Winston. She is a clinical psychologist, a master clinician in anxiety disorders and OCD, and co-author of 4 books with Dr. Martin Seif. She’s also the founder and Executive Director of the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute.

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