Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 527 - Why Your Search for Closure Isn't Working
Apr 29, 2025
Exploring the quest for closure after breakups, the hosts discuss the vital distinction between seeking answers and achieving emotional acceptance. They emphasize introspection as essential for healing, rather than rushing into new relationships. The conversation dives into how past patterns affect future commitments and introduces the Need for Closure Scale. With personal anecdotes and coping strategies like journaling, they invite listeners to embrace the non-linear journey of grief and the complexities of emotional processing.
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Dedeker's Breakup Journal Revelation
- Dedeker shared how she wanted answers from her ex but realized no conversation would give her true relief.
- She recognized that seeking answers was a cover for needing to feel better and move on from pain.
Two Types of Closure
- Closure has two types: seeking answers vs. processing acceptance.
- People often act like they want answers when they actually need emotional healing and acceptance.
Seeking Comfort vs. Answers
- Emily noted that repeated requests for conversations are often a search for comfort, not actual answers.
- Jace highlighted that asking for clarity can mask a wish to keep the relationship alive.